Friends of the secret: the Chinese women into the United States that you do not want to go back home? _ .where in the truth

I have a friend United States study abroad in, work in the United States after 20 to 30 years, retired back to Chongqing, but his wife (neither the United States education background of, China no university diploma) has decided to remain in the United States. Before I came to United States, he has also been consulted on the United States before, because little is known about-----compare the familiar is only written in the United States working hard in the restaurant, which eliminates the stories of individuals, so the mood very mixed emotions before his departure, I told him I'm worried that they do not fit, I may soon return home; after all, I have been hoping that retirement can do to help children in mountain area. He has decided to conclude, I would like the life United States, charitable thing may be done, but go back probably very small. He said he was in the United States know so many Chinese men returned home, but the development of more women go back to the small proportion of. Today, the author in the United States also nearly for two years, in addition to the need to learn to drive a car (and the domestic many years ago I drove a pole, then give up, and remember to drive on the very fear) and work up from the grass-roots stem (if I already have a license and dare to drive, because the excellent personal examination, you can now apply for business executives), enjoy the life of the United States. Previously also wrote the sea turtles of the main reasons, United States stepped up to the overall prosperity of social, orderliness, relatively equal opportunities for vulnerable groups can enjoy the equality and dignity, as well as free from elementary school to high school education and cover nearly 88% of the medical insurance system (Government now also trying to improve its health care system) and so on. The following is a female perspective on the attractiveness of the United States. 1, marriage, love opportunities: single or divorced in older women, even with children, in the United States remarriage is also very easy. The writer in the country has two divorced women friends, a graduate of the University, is focusing on the company as a middle-level cadres, 34-year-old, quality, looks good. She is the only emotion, not considering the matter, she and Mr. marriage or rent a House, the other low income than she doubled, she doesn't mind; a few years later he became the unit a little leadership, start socializing outside all day, play mahjong and sometimes not home, communication for a long time opponent has not improved, and finally divorced, a man with a child, although he did not wish to make a point on the property. But online friends for a long time, and also see a lot of people, she was disappointed to discover woman divorce with children want marriage really difficult. Conditions a bit better--in fact, she economic conditions on request is still not high, and she almost of the line, she most care about each other whether the importance of the family. But she found these years nearly 40 even far more than 40-year-old fellow men are looking for 30 years, many people are very interested in her, but I heard that she took the child, as soon as they are not below. Another friend, very beautiful and gentle, good, work is also very good, I also tried to help her introduction to fit men, they first heard she was very pleased with these conditions, but heard she was 43 years old, will be making excuses rejected, but these men age are at 47-53 between! and domestic situation Hyung so different is that in the United States, women are still young, whether or not to take the child is not a disorder. Often watch the United States, most men introductions on women also have age requirements, but generally require each other than their own, or a little less than 5 years old , no married men marry divorced with the child's age, or marry a woman than their own. They care about is whether the parties have common interests, values, personality, temperament is co-produced, etc. The author in the United States Bank colleagues have two divorced, a 33-year-old, a 43-year-old, with her three children. 33-year-old that last year she remarried, and every bit as big as never been married, no children. 43-year-old that because Mr. love no other divorce, separation (United States and many state laws provide for divorce before the separation of one year), this is her second marriage, her husband and her marriage was first married, no children, but also to her three children, he decided not to have children; although they are about to divorce, that man's weekend also often took her children to go outside and play, but also in actively seeking more access rights, she often complained to me. Her current boyfriend two years older than she, divorced, no children, they are going to wait for her to get married after divorce. I used to joke to tell them that in China, the divorce also of women with children, particularly those of women over 40, is very difficult to find the best wedding objects or simple expounded to them, they deeply puzzled. 2, employment discrimination, plain girls don't have to go to find your favorite cosmetic surgery. In the country of recruitment advertising, we will see many occurences of discriminatory provisions: such as age, such as height, appearance, and even build, marital status, etc. Business unit receptionist, Secretary, Executive Assistant, that involve a little social or service work, and even some schools and teachers, and staff, the Bank also justly demand looks decent, temperament, how many centimeters in height. Man looks really better than a person's professional-quality, professional skills more important ? restrictions on age is even more absurd, the majority of recruitment advertising requirements under 35 years old (the author refers to non-senior management and senior technical personnel), and even ordinary civil service recruitment also age limit has been set up, there are many industries require 28 years of age, it seems that theseIndustry is to eat a meal of youth; and as people over 35, just old and useless, it's like the ancients sigh of old, not dead, but for robber or thief just over 35, intelligence, energy is a lifetime of peak period. So we often see female students to job-seekers to cosmetic surgery, also see most people don't like their jobs or to stay in his life work but they do not like post because the re-employment and faced too many restrictions, it's all too easy for more than 35 years old, there is the re-employment of heart, or quit the bile. I first saw the United States United States company's recruitment advertising was not one mention age, appearance, marital status, etc., is of limited, was startled, but know that United States law expressly provides that, once a breach, will take place again. You will not see the United States looks normal female college students looking for work, and cosmetic surgery was in his thirties, forties also return to school, ready-for-industry. As in the United States, 30 years old are still very young, for many people, also may be a new start in life. My last flight on an airplane Beijing know a man, she married into the United States for many years, and have three children, and so the smallest kid on the primary, 36-year-old she started at the local University, then attend undergraduate accounting master, she now is she is located in a bank's senior financial officer. My family also is 30 years old before conversion, he had been chasing dreams, writers dream cast, finally got a CPA. I would like to try a few work, hope to find their own favourite, need-to-school, went to school, there is no need to worry about their own age. 3. healthy family social atmosphere. In the United States, the vast majority of people are very attention family, never ceased President will attend children schools require the participation of some activities for parents. You will seldom see what successful people talk to their undertakings neglect their families and the audience back and admiration and sympathy, but graduated from the prestigious women quit personally with the child's story. I really like this kind of society that the vast majority of people in the family; it is after work in their lives, little socializing, rarely work overtime. I come into contact with the so-called success persons (company area Vice President, Chief Financial Officer, Manager, Sales Director, principal; as a result of the limited circle of life, the author does not have access to those thousands of people and politics, billionaire, etc) look after the children went home from work, weekends are with his family, or develop their own personal tastes, they have their own brewing beer, painting, and friends organize amateur band. That kind of money to go to after work, eating and drinking, and then public K song, and what a mess of bath little heard. When a PARTY, usually drives motorboat scallops to join. United States the divorce rate is also very high, once the parties appear unsolvable problems, or a party ceases to love one another, and most will choose a divorce, not for the sake of the children forced to stay together. Also see the few men lovers of scandal, but that cause slightly successful men outside mistresses, three milk, lover of things far more domestic so prevalent, few officials there is a pile of lover, the lover room than the absurd story even talent. In addition most people value the family, the right social media guidance, I think the United States less entertaining, family-oriented lifestyle is also very important. We returned home from work, where there are many opportunities for the development of lover? without public consumption, how to provide material to facilitate lover? if one partner who was having an affair, even the neighbours will look down upon. Of course, these are also the authors to became aware of the United States, did not come before the United States that the United States life very casually, nightlife. 4, interpersonal, leadership without "blending"; shower care about is the "heavy" gift to man. The author of character for the bookworm is simply is a dream. In the units do not have to do our best to please the leadership, disagree on some things can also be direct, not to worry about leadership give you small shoe wear. The author of several of the following reasons: 1) United States most companies have a personal examination, but they are usually more objective, such as the author is located in the General staff of the Bank, its score from a computer to automatically extract and ranking, this is your personal fully able to control. 2) United States from the Manager, in charge of higher duties, to the General staff, job hopping is very frequent, if you do not really encounter Ruyi or rare villain and job-hopping is, most companies have medical, welfare and employment restrictions mentioned above reasons less, so no worries. 3) United States company meeting, the meeting also for Conference calls, in particular the low level of the employees, therefore we get together to play down certain departments or employees political 's Office. To participate in the Office politics, and almost had to rise to senior management only! colleague relationships because of the above is also very simple, all conflicts of interest between the relatively small, there is a very important reason is that many companies in the United States, the promotion is not a decision by the leadership and promoted, but your own performance, capacity and you are offered a promotion. For example, in the author's Bank, often have a promotion opportunities, if you are interested and feel qualified to submit applications, but your application first through outsourcing human resources company filter through, and then only to the Bank's human resources Department for an interview, and finally you have to work with Department managers interview. Leadership, colleagues, baby, wedding, birthday, you don't have to go to, let alone leading parents, sons birthday, unless he or she is your friend, they put the colleague and friend relationships clearly divided, colleagues is the companion while you work, and your life. Even if the person you want to gift giving, United StatesIt is the pursuit of "heavy" gift to man, their Christmas gift exchange generally will not exceed 20 blocks. I also work in the Bank, I heard that many of our units are to the Governor of the middle-level cadres, I seem to be a gift for special people who doesn't know any better, but I'm not good at, like; if you want to gift giving, the rushed? value? what if they refuse, leadership or don't really like is this really take back? these issues I am pondering for a long time, still no answer! 5, relatively inclusive, liberal social environment, simple success criteria, complaining of downturn author in previous home in article or write to, now many women on the definition of a happy marriage is married to a rich and generous men (even some of the media seems to be talking about this, for example, they compare star woman's marriage, and marry the rich is the most successful), but also around complaining complaining. Link to sister's house cleaning of the aunt (49 years of age) should have told us that she had a friend who married a rich Taiwan people, live in Villa, she would like to, though she now boyfriend she is very good! many males than who cause more successful, more luxury car, a lover or a second or third wife many young and beautiful. One of the most interesting story is, I of a friend asked her bank of a colleague: "your new hairstyle looks in your County (her colleague has just returned from a suburban counties of Chengdu to urban) doing?", the female colleagues immediately turned face, very angry, I might get there hair, my hair much! in United States, so angry and show off to others must not be understood, and you want to show off opportunities are few. United States women see colleagues beautiful clothes, jewelry, also praised, but no one will ask you the brand and price. Even the price of your House, they will not be asked. In marriage, who married young and beautiful wife or that woman married a wealthy it is simply not something to be proud of the capital, in their view, a happy marriage is the respect and love each other, have common values, similar hobbies, or best friend. For career success, they also have a completely different note. You should consult an old beauty in the United States do work the best, most people will tell you to do anything you like, most people think! do you like to work, your ability to be successful. 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